tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.comments2023-10-18T09:18:46.284-05:00Two Mommies AND A BABY!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10771506290170818663noreply@blogger.comBlogger212125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-21138003958888278132014-05-19T08:31:11.375-05:002014-05-19T08:31:11.375-05:00Aahh wow she looks so grown up already!! Glad you&...Aahh wow she looks so grown up already!! Glad you're enjoying mummy life!! xxSarah + Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03602905789704757839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-73395884158410441322014-03-04T20:28:11.674-06:002014-03-04T20:28:11.674-06:00Agreed!
Now we just need more good children's...Agreed! <br />Now we just need more good children's books with families like ours in them! Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15441044988830815964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-32283340391930475672014-03-02T20:21:46.203-06:002014-03-02T20:21:46.203-06:00I agree with your concerns about "Gotcha Day....I agree with your concerns about "Gotcha Day." And Family Day sounds great! That's a lovely way to think about the day--the day that all of you were connected as a family through Millie. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-52105727056968408482014-02-17T20:38:13.529-06:002014-02-17T20:38:13.529-06:00Chicken! :) I think Family Day is much more apt-...Chicken! :) I think Family Day is much more apt--gotcha has always seemed a little to glib to me, like it doesn't have the weight all around that the anniversary deserves, especially after all of the thought and emotion and love that goes into adoption from all sides. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-91490814062202257802014-02-13T09:11:36.832-06:002014-02-13T09:11:36.832-06:00I love the idea of calling it "family day.&qu...I love the idea of calling it "family day." That's a perfect term for it. And you all make a absolutely beautiful family. Congratulations on your first year together. Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15441044988830815964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-70934214592050780392014-01-29T11:41:40.028-06:002014-01-29T11:41:40.028-06:00AHH!! Happy Belated Birthay Millie!!! I am catchin...AHH!! Happy Belated Birthay Millie!!! I am catching up on blog reading...and trying to get back into a writing rhythm. I can't believe she is ONE! Wow how time flies :)Journeyof2beMommieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02806465661424291743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-53522912788234101442014-01-26T16:42:00.333-06:002014-01-26T16:42:00.333-06:00What an incredibly difficult situation, my heart g...What an incredibly difficult situation, my heart goes out to you. Ultimately you and Carla are the only ones who know what is best for your family, while I also understand that this doesn't make the decision any easier. I hope you find peace in the thought that the family meant for this little boy may be waiting for the call that he is here. More Than Wordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12481524913587270637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-90709966659685536712014-01-25T05:27:22.646-06:002014-01-25T05:27:22.646-06:00Me and my girlfriend were in the same situation 3 ...Me and my girlfriend were in the same situation 3 months ago.our daughter who we adopted at 8months was already has two older siblings adopted together.we got a call to say her birth parents were pregnant again with baby number 4 they rarely leave a year between children and we had only had our daughter 9months and although we want a bigger family it was just to soon for us and we had to say no.I am still struggling with my decision but he has been adopted so I know his happy. I just wanted to say with have contact with our daughters two siblings and her adopted parents and we try to meet a few times a year. So hopefully you can have this in the future with the new baby. I never realised when we adopted how big our family was going to expand not just a new baby but everyone else that came with her and we love it!! Good luck<br /><br />Elle(from the uk)Future mummieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09372348245105416119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-53525755382807909382014-01-24T22:10:59.790-06:002014-01-24T22:10:59.790-06:00This is going to be long, but I've had 13 year...This is going to be long, but I've had 13 years to think about it, so I have thoughts! My aunt and uncle and a set of my mom's cousins were both in this exact situation years ago--they each adopted a little girl, who already had three or four older siblings with a birth family who couldn't care for them all (I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that Millie's birthparents are orthodox Jews, too, since that was the situation for my cousins, and an explanation that made some sense to me about why one would choose to keep having babies you can't afford to raise) and were contacted a year or two later offered a sibling who was being put up for adoption. In both cases they said yes to the second child, but no to any subsequent ones. I imagine it was heartbreaking to say no, but they (and you) are right to know what your best family size will look like. If you will be the best parents to Millie as a family of three, then Bloggity is right, and someone out there who desperately wants a child in their life will now get to welcome a beautiful and long-expected baby boy. My cousins know they have other siblings--the eldest is reaching the end of high school and will probably have the opportunity soon to decide whether to reach out to her birth family. I expect if she chooses to do so she'll find that her younger siblings had excellent parents who felt blessed to raise them, just as my aunt and uncle do to have her and her brother. My heart breaks for everyone involved in this situation, but I think the truth of it is in the care and love you give to Millie. She is in a better place than she would have been otherwise because her birthparents recognized that they couldn't give her the childhood she deserved, and you have made the same decision about this little boy. I wish you much peace. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-12060346403035188542014-01-24T21:39:47.918-06:002014-01-24T21:39:47.918-06:00It sounds like you made the right decision for you...It sounds like you made the right decision for your family, but what an intense set of emotions this must bring up. And it must be hard to make such a major decision in such a short time. Thinking of you all, including Millie's birth family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-76910461495580430862014-01-24T11:22:33.213-06:002014-01-24T11:22:33.213-06:00I'm a silent lurker but all I could think when...I'm a silent lurker but all I could think when I read this is that there is a family out there, like yours, that is praying and hoping and crying and desperately waiting for their baby and maybe this baby is meant for them.<br /><br />You are a loving wonderful family and choosing what is right for you is hard, but it's right.Bloggity Bloohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01699486301667565693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-40664948130237417752014-01-23T20:37:58.627-06:002014-01-23T20:37:58.627-06:00Your commitment to Millie and to your family is so...Your commitment to Millie and to your family is so clear. Although it's a hard decision to make, holding her close to your heart as you are is always the right choice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-71078597796607562292014-01-13T13:10:46.966-06:002014-01-13T13:10:46.966-06:00Thank you so much for asking! Good luck with all ...Thank you so much for asking! Good luck with all that goes along with the home study phase of the adoption process. Feel free to ask anything that might come up along the way! <br /><br />Oddly enough, our dog was the one thing that I found the most stressful about the whole situation. My advice would be to do what you normally do when people come to the house. For us, that meant that the first time our counselor came, we were armed with a whole lot of dog treats to keep the dog busy and then after that we usually had the dog in the crate when our counselor came. Because I am who I am, and I tend to over-share, I told our counselor that I was nervous about our dog who is overly excited when visitors come. She laughed and told me a story of a friend's dog who once jumped through a glass window because he got so excited about visitors. And then, honestly, it was no big deal. So if you feel better keeping the dog in a crate, that's what you do and just be honest about how the dog takes a while to warm up to visitors and you were nervous enough without also worrying about the dog. I honestly do not think it will affect your outcome at all. These counselors have done this so many times and I am sure that she or he has met a nervous dog once or twice before. Good luck and let me know how it all goes! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10771506290170818663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-19730218048185233912014-01-12T16:06:09.227-06:002014-01-12T16:06:09.227-06:00Hi there, we are starting the process to adopt in ...Hi there, we are starting the process to adopt in another state. However, we wondering if you knew how dogs were considered? We have one who is overly friendly and another who doesn't like people besides us. It's our concern during the home visit how the one who doesn't like people would affect our outcome...groovygravy87https://www.blogger.com/profile/13147612823524969051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-27745353602518176362014-01-02T09:16:00.755-06:002014-01-02T09:16:00.755-06:00Happiest of birthdays to your beautiful little gir...Happiest of birthdays to your beautiful little girl!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-42516238321930474652014-01-01T19:25:44.082-06:002014-01-01T19:25:44.082-06:00Happy 1st birthday to your beautiful little gal! F...Happy 1st birthday to your beautiful little gal! From reading your posts and seeing the adorable pictures shared, it's easy to see how amazingly happy she has made her mamas. :)More Than Wordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12481524913587270637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-19158926520377171012013-12-27T18:03:55.099-06:002013-12-27T18:03:55.099-06:00Jessica, I wondered what to wish you for the comin...Jessica, I wondered what to wish you for the coming New Year, now that you are married to a wonderful woman, are raising an astonishing little baby girl, are living in the charming home you and Carla have created, and are teaching as meaningfully as ever. But now I know, I wish you many more magical moments in the New Year to come. I love you! MomGail Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16544995134472146781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-34619186335243777332013-12-27T08:59:37.472-06:002013-12-27T08:59:37.472-06:00I can't believe she's almost a year old al...I can't believe she's almost a year old already! And I hope you will keep writing--I know it gets less instantly-amazing with the milestones, but there's something lovely about getting to keep up with these babies that have been so hoped-for, and to learn what other parents are doing in our little cohort!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-71175235590780706242013-12-16T14:33:43.215-06:002013-12-16T14:33:43.215-06:00Hi Jessica! My name is Heather and I was hoping yo...Hi Jessica! My name is Heather and I was hoping you would be able to answer a question regarding your blog! If you could email me at Lifesabanquet1(at)gmail(dot)com I would greatly appreciate it!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04104895709983001125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-4381966094743902642013-11-09T17:47:49.328-06:002013-11-09T17:47:49.328-06:00What a great post and so very true. My home state...What a great post and so very true. My home state, (NM) just began allowing same-sex marriage as well and it felt amazing to finally get that piece of paper. <br /><br />Your wedding picture is beautiful and your little gal is just too cute. I look forward to following. :)More Than Wordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12481524913587270637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-83479798964784718542013-11-06T21:31:48.269-06:002013-11-06T21:31:48.269-06:00I LOVE THIS! Thanks so much for sharing your jour...I LOVE THIS! Thanks so much for sharing your journey. Hope and inspiration! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13914157552812912089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-56516400842671475832013-11-06T09:40:27.710-06:002013-11-06T09:40:27.710-06:00Congratulations! Slowly but surely things are cha...Congratulations! Slowly but surely things are changing...Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15441044988830815964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-81521732753923838502013-11-06T08:14:19.722-06:002013-11-06T08:14:19.722-06:00Love this, so well said. So happy for you three, a...Love this, so well said. So happy for you three, and all of Illinois!! Let's hope it's contagious and spreads over to Indiana :-) REMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02316473698156803374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-51705464933999715992013-11-03T18:12:33.726-06:002013-11-03T18:12:33.726-06:00I came across your blog online and found this entr...I came across your blog online and found this entry to be inspirational! My partner and I have been on the Cradle's waiting list for 2 1/2 years already. Some days I don't know if we could continue torturing ourselves with this unfair process. We're open to all kinds of situations and have been presented about 15 times.People are always saying, "you two will make the best moms -- why aren't you getting selected?!", but I guess it's still just not our time. As we continue to get older (we're both 44 now and began this process when we were 41), I pray that we have the energy for a little one. Thank you for the reminder of the joy that lies ahead in parenting... we'll continue to hang in there!PamandArdithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16772777440625742871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5897026576074041499.post-48504693090767306482013-10-30T10:45:39.970-05:002013-10-30T10:45:39.970-05:00Happy Belated Anniversary
Bspector@rogers.blackber...Happy Belated Anniversary<br />Bspector@rogers.blackberry.net<br />Looks and sounds like a great family....tons of love<br />Smile.....you have so much to smile about. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com