Wednesday, October 3, 2012

What I Have Learned These Past Three Weeks

What I have learned these past three weeks is that people are simply incredible.  I have learned that, when I let them, people step up in amazing ways, to be there for me.  When I let them, people will go out of their way to make me smile and make me feel just a little bit better.

What I have learned these past three weeks is that I am surrounded by people who care.  Carla and I are surrounded by people who are rooting for us. We have amazing people in our lives who are as excited at the thought of us having a child as we are.  Not only, however, are they there to celebrate the successes, but they are there in so many incredible ways to help us pick up the pieces after things don't work out how we would want them to.

What I have learned these past three weeks is that this process is grueling.  As frustrating as the paperwork stage of the process was, this stage is so much more heart wrenching.  We have absolutely no control over what happens. When we are frustrated, there is absolutely nothing that we can do.  This is where we are.  This is what we are doing.  This is the process that I have faith in, that I believe will work for us one day, that I know creates the best possible situation for the child.  This is what we are doing.  Though it can be heartbreaking, we are in it now.

But, the other thing that I have learned these past three weeks is that we are incredibly strong.  Yes, we crumbled when we heard it was a no.  But then, somehow, we have been able to pull it all back together and keep on going.  Because that is what you do.  That is how you build a family.  No matter what circumstances you are faced with, that is what you do. That is what we are choosing to do.  That is what we will keep on doing, until that one magnificent day comes when we get a phone call and it's a yes.  That's why we will keep going.


  1. I don't know you personally, but after following you for a few months I feel like it is my honor to be a tiny part of this process. I am cheering you on from afar, and get teary eyed right along side you when things don't go quite like you planned. You are such a strong pair. It makes me so happy to know that one day you will be the light of some child's life, and they yours. Just know you are touching lives of those around you...and we are rooting for you all the way!

    1. I am truly and deeply touched by your words. Thank you so much for taking the time to write. I don't really have the words to let you know how much it means, but thank you will have to do for now.

  2. Ever thought of not knowing when you're being shown? Our agency gave us a choice of whether we wanted to know or not. My partner and I were blissfully unaware for 7 months until we got "the call". Just a suggestion from a 2X adoptive mom.